Our longing for Connection drives our relationships. The authenticity and depth of our connection or intimacy with others is correlated to the authenticity and depth of our connection with ourselves. From an authentic place of be-ing, we are able to relate to the be-ing of another.
There are many ways to pursue Connection, but in essence it is holding space, sacred space where respect and honor is held with mutual intention and commitment. It is relating to the feelings, needs, and values of others. It is where we support and encourage others.
Connection starts and ends with communication, and communication starts with listening. Compassionate Listening, with understanding and empathy, then empowers us to speak our truth with authenticity and compassion.
In authentic and empathic relationships, we are then empowered to deepen our connection with ourselves, letting go of our ego identity and defense mechanisms to further grow into the authenticity of our true self, a purpose-full direction for our life path, and deeper connection with others.
As a starting place to pursue deeper Connection, ask yourself the following questions.
Are you approachable? Do you express vulnerability? Do you invite authenticity?
How do you listen? Do you hear with the intention of understanding what is said and meant, or are you quick to interpret and make up our own story? Do you hear beyond the words to the feelings, needs, and values that are being expressed? Do you listen from the heart?
How do you speak? Do you say what you mean or couch your words in socially acceptable terms? Do you speak with care and compassion or are you harsh and judgemental? Do you speak from the heart?