A CoCreative Path moves on to the cultivation of Connection – the path of Belonging
Connection and Belonging is a basic human need like food and shelter – and it is also one of the biggest deficits in out culture. We have been cut off from authentic connection to the earth and its inhabitants, from a sense of belonging to a place and a people. Western civilization has taught us a commodified version of existence, an individualistic perspective that everything and everyone is for our use and benefit. Our worldview has been inherited from colonizers and slavers, from a twisted view of depravity and superiority that has deeply infected our culture. We have been left with only a longing for connection and an imagination of community
There are many ways to pursue Connection but in essence it is holding space, sacred space where respect and honor is held with mutual intention and commitment. The path forward starts with self and cultural awareness, an understanding of our personal and collective trauma. It continues in cultivating mutuality, acceptance, and love. It is reconnecting with nature and relating with empathy to the feelings, needs, and values of others. It is where we give and receive authentic support and encouragement.
Our longing for Connection drives our relationships, consciously or subconsciously. The authenticity and depth of our connection and intimacy with others is correlated to the authenticity and depth of our connection with ourselves. From an authentic place of Be-ing, we are able to relate to the Be-ing of another – and in relationship with others we find Belonging.
Connection requires communication, both silent and verbal – and communication requires presence. Be-ing authentically with another requires noticing and listening with understanding and empathy. The practice of listening then empowers us to speak our truth with compassion.
As a starting place to pursue deeper Connection, ask yourself the following questions.
Are you approachable? Do you express vulnerability? Do you invite authenticity?
How do you listen? Do you hear with the intention of understanding what is said and meant, or are you quick to interpret and make up your own story? Do you hear beyond the words to the feelings, needs, and values that are being expressed? Do you listen from the heart?
How do you speak? Do you say what you mean or couch your words in socially acceptable terms? Do you speak with care and compassion or are you harsh and judgemental? Do you speak from the heart?
In authentic and empathic relationships, we are then empowered to further deepen our connection with ourselves, to experience a deeper sense of Belonging, and to deepwn our Intention and Purpose in life.